From People Pleaser to Self Lover You probably have noticed all the information on people-pleasing available and are likely to know a LOT about it. It’s also likely you’ve tried to hard to stop people pleasing patterns but still find yourself saying YES when you want to say no, or staying mute when you really want …
I had the privilege of being invited into a men’s inner sanctum. Over a period of 5 weeks, I listened to, supported and probed a group of men who, had done a fair amount of inner work. They were curious about my perspectives and deeply considered my thoughts on love and dating. 2 of them …
It seems like a strange thing to say – yet if you stop for a moment, how often do you rush through this moment, eager to get to the next? Confronting what lies ahead of you, with a just get it done kind of attitude. Well of course you’d be forgiven for that, given the …
I really enjoy the company of men and lately more than ever, I’ve been very concerned for this love of mine. After watching the documentary the Red Pill, I learnt some facts around men that left me with a feeling. Like, why is it the men have to stay behind on the boats when the …
You’re a human being, right? I know, I’m starting with the bleedingly obvious. But stay with me … living life is about engaging in a feeling experience with the world around you. We do stuff, we affect things and people by our engagement with them. Our feeling engagement is what influences us – we may …
In hindsight, I have been able to see where, not understanding how I ‘worked’ emotionally meant I ended up feeling quite powerless at times in my relationships. I had handed over my emotional power and felt as if I was a hostage to events nd situations, not being able to free myself from feelings of …
Are the challenges many of us face, MENTAL health problems? Perhaps we have been misguided. Not that I want to tell you what to do. No. Really. But consider this: when you feel anxious and depressed what’s in your way? You’ve been told it’s your MENTAL health. But isn’t the problem what you are feeling? Do …
Even after your relationship with a narcissist has ended, there may be collateral damage. While I feel pretty grateful for the experience and growth that resulted from my relationship, there’s an interesting phenomenon I’ve observed that seems to be part and parcel of such a life experience…. I wonder if you can relate? Sometimes in …
I was the movie playing on a screen to entertain the viewer and keep them happy. Is it any wonder, I felt disconnected and alone in the relationship? is it any wonder after time there was nothing there – no common interests, no heart. And is it any wonder, I had lost myself? I hadn’t yet realised I had replaced me with a paper cut out, that was held in shape by the invisible lines of her own creation.
